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Finding Her - Introduction

Thank you for journeying with me through the process of finding her. I’m excited, and I hope you are too. By no means am I an expert, but through life experiences, some formal education, and ultimately, God, I feel a strong desire to touch on this topic. We have all experienced some level of pain at some point in our lives. We all have a story and a past. As you know, us women are professionals at plastering a smile upon our beautiful faces and pressing on like we are not bearing burdens or an inkling of an untouched wound. We process through brokenness very well – externally – like nobody’s business. Yet, it’s not quite the same, internally. And because those internal wounds aren’t exposed, they are easily ignored, swept to the side, or mistaken as something else (we’ll touch on that later).

God has been pressing me to go deeper in the area of healing. To go beyond encouragement and dig down to the root, and I pray this resource will be a blessing to somebody. Don’t get me wrong, encouragement is very necessary, and we will continue to spread it.

However, freedom awaits when women recognize their pained areas and triggers and make intentional efforts to heal and grow past them.

I can’t begin to count the number of times I merely touched the surface when it came to my past healing efforts. Here’s an example of a cycle I’ve experienced in the past: I’d be in a state of heavy emotions/hurt on a Monday, and by Wednesday it would be an afterthought, especially if something else occurred – good or bad - that took my mind off of it. A diversion such as work, a warm and fuzzy text, shopping, family commitments, etc. would transpire and temporarily make me feel better. Sometimes those distractions would be deliberate. But what happened to that unattended pain? It would come back to show its face, and not always in the same form–tricky, huh? Why…because I overlooked it and/or just plastered a Band-Aid (aka a temporary fix) on it to get me through. Even the times in which I made conscious efforts toward becoming a better version of myself, where I went through a few discipleship programs at Church, attended conferences, and more. I thought I was on the path to total healing when in actuality, I was still missing the target.

Do you ever find yourself going through cyclical situations and not knowing why? You keep ending up at the same place. Do you ever feel like your family is continuously troubled by generational cycles that won’t disappear? Ladies, you’d be surprised how past wounds, even from childhood, can still affect us today. Well, most of us probably know that, but do you know what those wounds show up looking like in your adult life? No matter the amount of success, things acquired, likes, trips, boos, or friendships, those unresolved wounds can be detrimental to your path towards destiny.

It wasn’t until recently that I realized God was processing me from August 2018 until not too long ago. When I say processing, I mean showing me “me” from the inside out and showing me HIM in all areas of my life.

God will take us through some things to remind us of who HE is.

After coming out of that year+ process, I was like ahha. In hindsight, I’m so grateful for that season because the growth and development was incredible. I’m way more aware and in tune with myself and reasons behind my actions and reactions. I’m finally at a place where I can say I have reached wholeness – like, forreal. It’s not because I am perfect - far from it. It’s not because I don’t have flaws - yup, I do. It’s not because I don’t suffer from chronic pain - have that issue too. Actually, it’s because of the opposite. It’s because I know all of those things (plus some), and I’m content. I’m in tune with my triggers, and I have acknowledged my pain areas. I no longer seek external things, but rest in the beauty of what lies within (even the broken pieces - they made a beautiful portrait when God put them together). Most importantly, it's because of my faith, knowing that God does all things well. We were all uniquely crafted by God for a purpose and nothing we have been through or will go through will go wasted. God can use it all!

It took a while to get to this point, in fact, I thought I was here in early 2018, but God was still working on me, and still is, daily. For that, I’m grateful. He ain’t finished with us yet, ladies!! *shimmies with joy*

I’m so excited we are taking this journey together and for what’s to come!

Next topic:

  • Identifying the roots

I'm praying for the healing and growth that will transpire. Until next time…Love you! 💕

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