I recently uploaded an affirmation e-book to the website as a resource for women to read and meditate on the many glorious ways in which God views them. The e-book contains both affirmations and supporting scripture references.
Women, far too often, wrestle with the lies of the enemy. The lies that tell us that we aren’t enough, the voices that make us feel inadequate, those dreadful feelings of comparison and covetousness. But God tells us in Hebrews 13:5, “Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He, Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Therefore, God has already given us the power to win that wrestling match and defeat the enemy.
Self-worth and identity issues can stem from a multitude of things such as low self-esteem, a past mentally abusive relationship, neglect/abandonment issues, toxic relationships, body image insecurities, and more. When this happens, a woman can tend to find fault in everything that she does and is typically left to seek validation and approval from external sources.
Today, I checked in on a ministry sister that I recently met, and she was brave enough to share the areas in which she was struggling. She was dealing with feelings of jealousy, comparison, and envy. Additionally, she was at a point where she was questioning her purpose in life. She was the second woman I’ve recently come into contact with who was wresting with these emotions.
Ladies - How often are we plagued with feelings of jealousy? How often do you walk into another woman’s spotless, bigger, or beautifully decorated house and think, “Wow, how does she do it all?” How often do you see another woman who appears to be put together flawlessly – hair, nails, fashion, etc. – and think to yourself, “That’s cute. I need to get myself together.” These are all real examples that I’ve thought before, and possibly even recently. Especially, after recently undergoing surgery on my pelvic area, and feeling like my mid-area is bloated out of control. The point is, we may feel these emotions at times, but we mustn’t remain in them, because we were all created by God, beautiful in our unique way! So God created man in His own image; in the image of God, He created him; male and female He created them (Genesis 1:27).
Below are some steps you can take when self-worth issues (re)surface:
1. Change your way of thinking
These feelings and thoughts begin in your mind and your way of thinking. Romans 12:2 says: And do not conform to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind that you may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God.
2. Find a community/accountability partner
To help keep you encouraged and uplifted when you are in a wrestle with the enemy. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 says: Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
3. Protect your eye and ear gates and lean on God
Get into God’s word and set your acceptance standards off what God says about you! Knowing who you are in Christ, will help build your self-esteem.1 Peter 5:8-9 says: Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world.
Alright, my loves, keep rising past the thoughts of the enemy! Remember, you are equipped to defeat them with God’s Word and promise. I pray you are blessed by this post. Be sure to visit the site and reference the Affirmation document. Love you all!